"Go big or go home."
One of the most iconic motivational phrases around, yet so few people dare to follow its directive.
There are times in your life where you'll be faced with this option. Times when you'll need to make a BIG move.
These are the times that will define you, and more often than not, determine whether or not you'll accomplish your goals.
For most people, a small change here or there is easy to do. They believe by making a series of small changes, they'll eventually get to where they're going.
Small changes are cool too, but it's the big changes that test your faith. Tremendous power can come from making such a move. When I feel it in my gut and my spirit that I should make the leap, I see that as a divine challenge that I must accept.
Ralph Waldo Emerson says, "I shun father and mother, wife and brother whenever my Genius calls me."
That's a very bold and powerful statement. Few people would have the audacity to place anything over family.
There are times in life where you must listen to your inner Genius and be bold enough to move in the direction it tells you to. It's the only way to explore your limitations and open up the door for new possibilities.
So how do you do it? How do you overcome the fear and jump?
Here's a few tips that I use to make the leap of faith:
1. Learn to Listen
A lot of us lose touch with our inner voice. As children, our inner voice speaks loud and proudly! It challenges us to explore without fear or doubt or embarrassment.
As we get older, we tend to allow our insecurities or our need for approval to get in the way. In a way, we tell our inner voices to shut up.
It's kind of like calling a friend and getting their voicemail. At first, you think nothing of it. Maybe they're busy? You call back later, and get the voicemail again. This time you leave a message and wait a few days. Still no answer.
You might feel concerned and try to contact them again, but eventually, you'll begin to feel as if they don't want to speak to you. When that happens, you'll give up reaching out altogether.
It's such a dangerous place to be when your inner voice feels like you don't wanna listen anymore. As Emerson explains it, your inner genius is where all of your inspiration comes from. It's the link between you and the divine. I don't know about you, but I don't ever want to lose that connection!
So if you feel like you've lost touch with your inner voice, or feel as if you've never been in tune with it before, how do you start listening?
Start by asking.
Ask yourself questions like, "What do I really want?" or "What should I do next?" Ask questions to gain clarity and ask for what you'd like to see in your life.
Give yourself time in the morning when you wake up and at night before you go to sleep to ponder on these questions. If you don't get answer right away, it's okay. Be patient and continue to have this dialogue with yourself, and eventually your inner voice will appear.
2. Avoid the Naysayers
Haters gon' hate, lol. Whenever you’re preparing for a big move, there are bound to be people in opposition of what you’re doing. There will be people who will try to stand in your way because they don’t believe you can do it.
More often than not, these naysayers will be the ones who are closest to you - your family and friends. In many cases, it's not that they don’t care about you. it’s usually because they care too much. They don’t ever want to see you fail, so they let their own fear drive their decision to oppose you.
This is why I think Emerson says he shuns them whenever his Genius calls. Fear won’t allow them to understand and open their hearts and minds to the possibilities. If you're not careful, their fear will become your fear.
Now, most people will give in to their family and loved ones because of the pressure to remain accepted. Often times, family members will use that trump card to their advantage as leverage to get you to back down.
If you opt to appease them in this moment, I can pretty much guarantee that the following outcomes will usually follow:
- You won’t fulfill your vision or your dreams.
- You will live regretting the decision you made, wondering what could have been.
- Your family and friends will have loved and accepted the wrong version of you.
So do yourself a favor and fight the dream killers. Push forward! In my experience, even if it’s a little rocky for a while, everyone will eventually come around to cheer you on once their fear subsides.
3. Fill Up Your Faith Tank
This flight requires faith, hence the title “Leap of Faith.”
The Bible defines Faith as the substance of things hoped for. The evidence of things not seen.
You need to condition yourself to believe you already have the power to succeed.
When I’m running low on faith, I surround myself with positive individuals. Specifically, those on faith missions of their own. Their courage and zest empowers me to get moving pretty quickly.
Sometimes, I even go to church, read scripture or other spiritual material. Although I'm not super religious, this helps me place things in the proper perspective. Recognizing a greater power can be very inspiring and motivating.
Finally, I think about where I am and where I've come from.
Someone once said, “A careful inventory of one’s past always goes to show that everything happens for a reason.”
In retrospect, it’s easier to see why things happened the way they did, whether good or bad, because you are now living the result of it all. I trust that everything that is happening now, or will happen in the future, will also be for a reason and will eventually work itself out. Therefore, I don’t have to worry about the details or be concerned about tomorrow. All I need to do is all I that I can in this moment, and have confidence (faith) that everything will be cool.
You will never learn to fly until you make the jump. More often than not, the reality of doing something is far less difficult than what your mind has made it out to be.
It's kind of like riding a rollercoaster. Walking up to that big ass ride, watching the riders scream for their lives, it's totally understandable to feel intimidated. While you stand in line waiting for your chance to ride, you may even begin to second guess your decision to get on. I've actually seen people wait in line for over an hour and punk out right before getting on the ride. The fear and anticipation was so unbearable, they had to pull an about face at the very last moment.
But say that you're actually brave enough (or crazy enough) to get on the ride. Once the seat locks down and the ride starts moving, there's no going back. As the ride slowly climbs to the height of the first drop, you may actually say a prayer or some swear words (or both), but at this point you have no choice but to drop.
Moments later, the ride is over and you've safely landed. You've had the time of your life and you've realized that it really wasn't bad at all.
Give yourself the opportunity to fly in real life. Throw yourself on the ride and strap yourself in so that there's no turning back, and I promise you'll end up better for it!
Hope this helps guys! If you have any questions, or you'd like to share some faith leap stories...drop a line in the comments below!
Live Cool Y'all